No, your post and your comments were directed at the marriage issue. If you intended to encompass DADT, gay adoption and the like, that was not entirely clear.
I have no intention of defriending you. You are an interesting, intelligent, articulate person. Please note that you're the one who wanted people off your lawn. I was simply pointing out the implications of your statement.
I think don't ask don't tell is utterly idiotic and I cheerfully support its repeal. As an adopted child, you can imagine that I am rather vigorously pro-adoption. In my fantasy world all there would be is civil unions. That's actually what I am working towards.
I am, however, utterly sick and tired of having support of gay marriage being thrown in my face as some sort of litmus test of my queerness. I apologize for taking my frustration at this out on you and I am not including you in that camp, at least not intentionally. However, I am utterly certain that you are intelligent and self-aware enough to realize that not everyone who is not supportive of gay marriage is a bigot. Do you have any concept of what it's like to be told that you hate yourself or that you're lying about your sexuality because someone thinks you should have a different political stance? For pity's sake, if you listen to the supposed "leaders" of the gay community, I quite literally do not exist. Hell, yes, I take that personally.
I should note that it's far more accurate to state that I do not care about gay marriage than to say that I'm against it. Unfortunately, the sides are being drawn so that those who are in my position are being thrown in with actual bigots. And I am utterly freaking sick of that, especially from those from whom I will demand better. You're better than that. You know you are. I know you are. I also know how easy it is to forget how things will be taken when you're filled with indignation.
I feel like no one wants to meet this side halfway. That bothers me. And I can't always turn the other cheek - I'm not wired that way.
Of course you can't turn the other cheek, you wouldn't be who you are if you did. But, again, when you speak of meeting halfway, well, that's my entire point. Do not heave everyone who isn't out there with waving a flag in with the idiots. Some of us aren't. All I'm asking is for some realization that when you blow up and rail as you did, you're catching me and others in the crossfire. Stop. Think. Don't make kneejerk assumptions about someone else because you just presume ill will.
I wish I could say I was telling you this out of some purely intellectual comprehension but not so much. Take it from someone who has humiliated herself and caused insult and harm unintentionally (today in point of fact). I understand being passionate about politics. I really do. Just don't let that become some be all and end all that winds up eliminating people from your life. Besides, if you surround yourself with people who only agree, how will you persuade anyone else?
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No, your post and your comments were directed at the marriage issue. If you intended to encompass DADT, gay adoption and the like, that was not entirely clear.
I have no intention of defriending you. You are an interesting, intelligent, articulate person. Please note that you're the one who wanted people off your lawn. I was simply pointing out the implications of your statement.
I think don't ask don't tell is utterly idiotic and I cheerfully support its repeal. As an adopted child, you can imagine that I am rather vigorously pro-adoption. In my fantasy world all there would be is civil unions. That's actually what I am working towards.
I am, however, utterly sick and tired of having support of gay marriage being thrown in my face as some sort of litmus test of my queerness. I apologize for taking my frustration at this out on you and I am not including you in that camp, at least not intentionally. However, I am utterly certain that you are intelligent and self-aware enough to realize that not everyone who is not supportive of gay marriage is a bigot. Do you have any concept of what it's like to be told that you hate yourself or that you're lying about your sexuality because someone thinks you should have a different political stance? For pity's sake, if you listen to the supposed "leaders" of the gay community, I quite literally do not exist. Hell, yes, I take that personally.
I should note that it's far more accurate to state that I do not care about gay marriage than to say that I'm against it. Unfortunately, the sides are being drawn so that those who are in my position are being thrown in with actual bigots. And I am utterly freaking sick of that, especially from those from whom I will demand better. You're better than that. You know you are. I know you are. I also know how easy it is to forget how things will be taken when you're filled with indignation.
I feel like no one wants to meet this side halfway. That bothers me. And I can't always turn the other cheek - I'm not wired that way.
Of course you can't turn the other cheek, you wouldn't be who you are if you did. But, again, when you speak of meeting halfway, well, that's my entire point. Do not heave everyone who isn't out there with waving a flag in with the idiots. Some of us aren't. All I'm asking is for some realization that when you blow up and rail as you did, you're catching me and others in the crossfire. Stop. Think. Don't make kneejerk assumptions about someone else because you just presume ill will.
I wish I could say I was telling you this out of some purely intellectual comprehension but not so much. Take it from someone who has humiliated herself and caused insult and harm unintentionally (today in point of fact). I understand being passionate about politics. I really do. Just don't let that become some be all and end all that winds up eliminating people from your life. Besides, if you surround yourself with people who only agree, how will you persuade anyone else?