I wish I could offer something on affirmations. I need to start doing something about this myself. I have a really hard time with self-image, body image, face image, all that. I'm not classically pretty either, and I've spent my whole life being made to feel like some sort of Amazon freak because I have a squared-off, boyish body (the boobs are a very new thing and I'm still not used to them), because I'm tall, because I have choppy short hair and sharp bone structure. And now I don't even have that sharp bone structure going for me - it's been overlaid with a gloss of fat.
Sometimes I look in the mirror and see a cute girl with a funky haircut and pretty eyes and cool glasses, who has a well-proproportioned, if not totally slammin', body ... those days are few and far between. I wish I knew how to make them happen more often.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, I really sympathise. REALLY sympathise, especially with this: I was largely ignored by guys, too, which only made it worse. I was already insecure about my looks and I made up my mind that the reason I was getting nowhere was because I didn't look a certain way. It wasn't that the guys were immature douches, or that I was possibly socially awkward, or any other reason. I wasn't "cute." I wasn't "tiny" or doll-like, and that's all that men wanted (not to mention dumb, docile, and compliant, but that's another post's worth of neuroses).
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Date: 2008-01-31 10:07 pm (UTC)I wish I could offer something on affirmations. I need to start doing something about this myself. I have a really hard time with self-image, body image, face image, all that. I'm not classically pretty either, and I've spent my whole life being made to feel like some sort of Amazon freak because I have a squared-off, boyish body (the boobs are a very new thing and I'm still not used to them), because I'm tall, because I have choppy short hair and sharp bone structure. And now I don't even have that sharp bone structure going for me - it's been overlaid with a gloss of fat.
Sometimes I look in the mirror and see a cute girl with a funky haircut and pretty eyes and cool glasses, who has a well-proproportioned, if not totally slammin', body ... those days are few and far between. I wish I knew how to make them happen more often.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, I really sympathise. REALLY sympathise, especially with this: I was largely ignored by guys, too, which only made it worse. I was already insecure about my looks and I made up my mind that the reason I was getting nowhere was because I didn't look a certain way. It wasn't that the guys were immature douches, or that I was possibly socially awkward, or any other reason. I wasn't "cute." I wasn't "tiny" or doll-like, and that's all that men wanted (not to mention dumb, docile, and compliant, but that's another post's worth of neuroses).
That's ... wow, that takes me back. :-/
*hugs you again*