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Hey, LJ. How's life?

Yeah, yeah, been awhile.

Work has been kicking my ass hardcore. I know that's what I usually say, but it's especially true lately. I feel kind of drained when I get home and not particularly like sharing. Which is too bad, because I have things to say for a change.

No idea what order I should put them in, but here's what's "up" with me at the moment:

1. I am now the proud owner of a sprained ankle. Apparently, I've been for some time. Said ankle had been bothering me a LOT ever since the Christmas snowpocalypse, when in my climbing over hill and dale I must have rolled or twisted it just a little too much. Then, I proceeded to walk on it for several months, not wanting to admit something was wrong. That finally came to a head during my vacation, and J all but frogmarched me to the doctor himself. So, after a visit to the doctor, I was handed a prescription for more PT. Yay. I like my therapist a lot better this time, he's a lot more knowledgeable than my last go-round, and I feel like we're making some progress. The truly frustrating part is how much time I have to spend off of my ankle, icing it and resting it, so it will heal. Anyone who knows how deeply I abhor sitting still for ages and not being able to walk a lot could tell you how very much I hate this.

1a. This has been complicated by feeling kind of nauseated and under the weather the last couple of days. Last week I wondered if I wasn't coming down with a cold. This time, I've been feeling fluish, but nothing blows up into actual symptoms. It's as fun as it sounds. I'd be doing more of the exercises I can actually do, but my stomach has been acting up so much I feel worn out and not really like doing much of anything. Blah.

2. When not feeling physically meh, I've been a little bundle of rage focused at all of these asshole politicians that want to do things like defund Planned Parenthood, legalize the murder of abortion doctors, and basically strip my rights away until I'm a fucking incubator with legs. While I support those I know who have chosen to have children, I don't even pretend to think that everyone should be a parent. And while I could go on about this literally all night (just ask my lovely and patient fiance), I'm not going to. I do everything I can to respect the choices of others, and, as hard as it, to respect the choices of those I violently disagree with. I don't get for one second why it's so hard for the other side to do this, but then again, there's a reason we call them "anti-choice." Because that's what they are doing everything to prevent: the ability to choose. The ability to have the education and information to decide what is right for the person already living. They are hell-bent on creating a world not unlike Atwood's Handmaid's Tale, which they are making clear, and why I am considering, sprained ankle and all, to go to the Rally for Women's Health this Saturday. If you're a woman, or you care about any woman, you should think about going, too.

3. I'm turning 31 in a couple of weeks. I'm also having my first joint birthday party, with J, who will be hitting the big 4-0. I'm happy to celebrate, but a good friend made a prediction a few years back (I remember it being [livejournal.com profile] quodlibetic for some reason) said that you pretty much freak out until you turn 30, but after that, it's kind of "shrug". So far, she's right, but we'll see how I am when 35 rolls around.

4. Oscars are also this weekend. I continue to dislike and resent this whole 10 nominated best pictures business. Either split into two sets of categories the way the Golden Globes do, or roll it back to 5. All of the other categories get by with 5 or fewer nominations, I don't get why they suddenly need 10 Best Pictures.

5. And in wedding plan news, I received the extremely disappointing news over the weekend that in the state of NY, you can't have a friend who ordains themselves over the interwebs marry you. (Another win for the Wedding Industrial Complex). So, the hunt is on for a justice of the peace, I guess. I'm so annoyed - I was hoping for us to be married by someone who knows us, who cares about us, and will respect our wishes, not some stranger (and definitely not some stranger pushing an agenda). I'm hoping at the very least we can find someone completely and totally secular. I guess I'll start looking when we nail down the venue, at which time I hope to stop being annoyed about this.

Date: 2011-02-22 05:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] airspaniel.livejournal.com
What do you have to do to get ordained in the state of NY, I wonder? Because I would totally do that.

Sorry about your ankle, hon. Hope the PT helps a lot, and quickly! ^_^

Date: 2011-02-22 02:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] offbalance.livejournal.com
No idea. I'm trying to find out all I can now.

Thanks! I'm definitely seeing/feeling an improvement, which is a great thing.

Date: 2011-02-22 12:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antheia.livejournal.com
re 5, wait, huh? I could've sworn that was feasible. Simon married Aritz & Anne, Holly and Abdeen had a friend perform the ceremony, and David Von Hollweg officiated Logan's wedding. Do you want me to reach out to them?

Date: 2011-02-22 02:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] offbalance.livejournal.com
I would absolutely love to be wrong on this. I know that it's different for NYS and NYC, and NYC is a bit clearer on matters, but my impression is no. I'd love any info, so I'd appreciate hearing all about this.

Date: 2011-02-22 03:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antheia.livejournal.com
I emailed DVH, and I'll keep you posted.

Date: 2011-02-23 09:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] columbasimplex.livejournal.com
I think, sadly, you're right on this one - I feel like I looked this up at one point. And you're right, NYC does handle their marriage requirements differently (at least all you need for a marriage license in the city is photo ID, no birth certificates required!).

Date: 2011-02-22 04:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] firynze.livejournal.com
The whole "you must sit and do nothing" thing is how I ended up starting a publishing company. Watch yourself. ;-)

I despise that feeling of almost-sick. I'd rather be all the way sick, so that I know I'll eventually get better...

Can you get a friend who's ordained through mail-order to do it? I know my mother was cleared to perform the ceremony for my cousin, when he was getting married, and she's a mail-order minister.

Date: 2011-02-23 06:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] offbalance.livejournal.com
Well, if it gets me writing, then it'll be a win. Most I've had energy for at day's end has been zombie-like-tv-watching. Pain drains, man. As you know.

Right? I'm tired of this halfway there crap.

I'm currently in research mode. I have no idea. What's the difference between internet and mail order?

Date: 2011-02-23 07:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] firynze.livejournal.com
I'm wondering if mail-order people might be grandfathered in somehow? I just know that my mother's an ordained minister, has been since the 70s, and New York State had NO issue allowing her to perform my cousin's ceremony. NYC might be different, but it strikes me that it's possible to get this done.

Date: 2011-02-23 02:45 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quodlibetic.livejournal.com
1a. you're not... pregnant, are you?? ;) [hides]

3. Yep, I think I remember telling you that! Still haven't had an issue with any birthdays since, though 37 happens this fall. GAH.

4. There are just too many films nominated. How can a person focus on all 10 enough to pick a "best" one?

5. I didn't up with secular at my wedding, but the rabbi and priest involved thankfully didn't push any agendas. Also, they avoided the word "obey." NO OBEY, DAMMIT.

Date: 2011-02-23 06:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] offbalance.livejournal.com
1a. I can assure you that I'm not. The cramps are yet another reason I'm feeling under the weather this week.

3. IN A ROW? ;)

4. Seriously. NARROW IT DOWN. It makes it more special!

5. J and I are both ardent agnostics-bordering-on-athiests, so we'd like to keep it as secular as we can.

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